|Kundalini and Sexuality|
I should have read these words of Joseph Chilton Pearce instead of Nena and George O'Neill when my loins longed to wander. But alas they had not been written yet, and my consciousness was not ready to receive them. Added emphasis appears in red, and my reactions are enclosed in a box: (Note 96)
Shakti is one of the most descriptive words I know. It is the ancient Sanskrit word for the creative energy behind our universe. . . . According to yogic theory, creation springs from a polarity of conscious energy: a non-moving point, called Shiva from which all springs, and the creative energy emanating from Shiva, called Shakti. Shiva and Shakti are complementary - a single, indivisible consciousness, a Holomovement, in effect - but assume division in order to enact the play of consciousness. . . .
Kundalini and sexuality develop at the same time. Sexuality is the highest, most subtle expression of our physical Shakti and the lowest, or most physical, aspect of our spiritual creative energy. Sexuality is a pivotal, transitional energy on which we swing from biological to post-biological development. . . .
Kundalini, sexuality's subtle twin, has the exact opposite as her goal: the realm of insight-intelligence, the Self. Kundalini's job is to wean us away from old attachment to the body and the world, and direct us toward our true goal, the spirit. These two energies, our sexual Shakti and Kundalini Shakti, . . . They are designed to cooperate through bonding, and if that cooperation takes place, we have the best of both inner and outer worlds. . . .
Under the bonding power of the fourth chakra, pair-bond love is a manifestation of that love that sparked creation in the first place. True pair-bond love is a physical expression of the love of Shiva for Shakti, of God for his creation, the concretized form of love as an abstract, non-localized form. . . .
To the lover, love is spiritual. Each worships the other precisely as a devotee worships God, and rightly so. And in the earliest stage of this love there is only worship, awe, and wonder at the feet of an astonishing, shaking power. The power, whether recognized for what it is or not, is the power of the fourth chakra. . . .
Were this state sustained and allowed to mature as it should (which is possible only through bonding), the specific, or physical, would be led to the generic, or subtle. At the appropriate stage the two lovers would shift into the heart chakra. Bonded with their own hearts, their outer bonds would reflect this inner power and give the stability needed for a successful family life. . . .
This pre-established bond with the model is what establishes Kundalini as the dominant energy over its twin, sexuality, from the beginning. This assures a proper balance between the two Shaktis, Kundalini and sexuality; a balance between immanence and transcendence, between body and spirit. Then a powerful sexual drive can unfold, a drive that is in balance with all needs, since sexuality will itself be bonded, pulled on into transcendence by that heart chakra. . . .
Recall that attachment behavior is the attempt to incorporate a higher integral structure into a lower one, rather than allowing integration of the lower into the higher. Kundalini is a far more unrestricted and greater power than sexuality. Under the impetus of attachment behavior, Kundalini, when even partially incorporated into sexuality, seriously over-stimulates sexual energy without any of the necessary balance that only the power of the fourth chakra can bring about. . . .
Each of feels something tremendously important is supposed to happen with sexuality, and this is acutely so at adolescence. For a time the sheer excitement of the sexual venture holds us, but, stripped of its transcendent aspect, its bond with the fourth chakra, nothing beyond physical sensation happens. . . .
So we fill libraries with books on how to enhance this physical sensation, and we enter into a perpetual excess of rutting, searching for something that is supposed to happen and does not. The psychologist writes knowingly of the "post-coital blues" as though they were as natural as the "postpartum blues" of the violated and unbonded mother.
We look for the spiritual in the sexual with no notion of what we are looking for. And we do this under the compulsion of attachment behavior: We unconsciously treat our sexual partners as objects to be possessed (if only temporarily), on the one hand; and unconsciously expect from them a transcendent element they cannot possibly deliver, on the other. . . . The result is almost invariable - each member of the encounter sooner or later disappoints the other.